Wednesday, April 6, 2016

E is for Elope #atozchallenge



If you haven't thought about it yet, you probably should.
                        
Weddings are expensive. They are stressful.

Here's the first thing to do:

Write down why you want to have a wedding. Not why you want to get married, not why you're in love, but why you want to spend your time and money on a wedding. It's a gathering that lasts a few hours. The memories last a lifetime, but the wedding and reception are fairly short. A house can last a long time, too. So can a new car. The down payment for either of those can be equal to the amount of money spent on a wedding. So the first thing you need to do is figure out WHY YOU ARE DOING THIS.

Hang on to that. You're going to need to look back on it as you plan. It'll help.

But what if you have no reason? Or what if that reason stops mattering? Maybe you've discovered that your guest list is full of people who you wouldn't spit on if they were fire, much less invite to a huge party with $40 a plate dinners for which you're the one paying.

Then it's time to think about eloping.

I could talk about a Wedding-Moon here, but I've never seen an inexpensive one. So I'm just going to talk about eloping.

Get a marriage license from City Hall and have a judge perform the service one afternoon.

Or elope in Las Vegas. There are several other cities that offer quick weddings on the cheap, saving you thousands of dollars and plenty of headaches.



Check the policies of states near you. Will they marry out-of-state residents, is there a waiting period, and do you need a blood test or other items to marry?

A wedding at sea is actually much harder than Hollywood would lead you to believe, so do quite a bit of research if you plan to go that route. There are also Internet wedding services that are legal in some areas.

It never hurts to have a backup plan.

Check back tomorrow for information about wedding favors, assuming you haven't been talked out of a wedding yet!